Quickie: It's also called Pegging

"AFTER READING 119 CAN YOU SHOW ME A FEW PICTURES GUYS GETTING FUCKED BY WOMEN? AND IF IT WAS A CHICK WITH A DICK IS IT GAY THEN?"

Sure thing:

On another note, the act of a woman fucking a guy with a strap-on is called Pegging... I actually just learned that term after watching "Zack and Miri Make a Porno"... great flick by the way...
As for the second half of yer question, I think that depends on whether you consider a chick with a dick a woman or a pre-op transsexual... some say it's gay if it's a transsexual who used to be a man with a man and straight if it's with a woman... it's just something you'll have to decide fer yer'self; sorry I can't be more helpful in that area...

Transsexual with a man:

Transsexual with a woman:

You decide

Good Luck and Happy Fucking

Question 120

"I'm getting back with my ex after 6mnths and she's totally changed. She has her own chest of sex toys and wants to try these positions I never even herd of. I think she might have hook'd up with another guy while we were apart but I'm afraid to ask her. How do I ask her and what if she did?"

Simple, you say, "Babe, did you see anyone else while we were broken up?", and if she says yes, you go about the rest of yer day as you normally would; just with that extra little bit of knowledge...
Look, I know where yer head's goin with this and I have to tell ya to think rationally before acting like an idiot and doing or saying something completely retarded...

First off, it's been 6 months... this ain't the movies sir, this is real life; men and women don't take a couple years after a break-up to move on with their lives... in truth, ya have maybe a month (maybe two) before most people out of a relationship get back into dating... that's yer average person; some people start up again in a week or were already fucking someone before the break-up...

Secondly, you should be happy as fuck that she's into sex toys and wanting to try different positions; it means she more open to trying out new things... if you ever had a fantasy you wanted to play out or a position that you thought she'd never do when ya'll were first dating, now would be the time to ask her...

Thirdly, ask yer'self, does it really matter if she was with someone else while ya'll were apart?... whatever happened during that time, she's back with you now... with any luck, you'll last this time; but, not for long if you get hung up on what or who she might have done before getting back together...
Plus, let's say ya'll never got back together and yer now dating someone else... you wouldn't think there was a huge chance she was with someone before you?...

Now, I won't say to just ignore it and never bring it up; it'll end up eating at you that way... just remember that if she says she was with someone, than that's okay... we're only human and human's get lonely and seek comfort and comanionship when it presents itself (or when we're horny as fuck)... you, more than likely, would have done the same, had another woman appeared that made you feel good...

On a different point of view, whether she says yes or no, suggest that you both get tested... yes, that may start an argument; but, ya have to play it smart while also trying to be understanding...
And yer prolly asking, "Why should I get tested?"... Well, it'd be unfair to just ask her to do it... after all, how does she know you weren't banging other chicks during those six months...

Well, good luck to ya and Happy fucking

Question 119

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Question 118

"wut other JOBS are there behsides handjobs?"

I may have already answered something similar before; it feels semi-familiar... but, fuck it, you asked, so I'll try to answer...
Yes, there are plenty of other "jobs" besides the good ole fashioned hand job; technically, you can be jerked off by several different parts of a woman's body...
Let's go through the rundown:

The Hand Job:
The Classic; it's the simplest and easiest one their is. Yer girlfriend or wife grabs yer cock by the shaft and works her hand up and down (I know you already know this, as do many others; but, there are those who truly do not understand... I'll touch on that another time).

The Blow Job (Also known as Head or Sucking Cock):
Also an easy "job"; but, not well received by many women as a job they wanna do. This Job involves her placing yer cock in her mouth and working it like an icicle pop... best part is the Blow Job can work in tandem with the Hand Job... (For the Ladies: When giving a basic BJ, try to avoid teeth to cock contact; simply place yer tongue over yer bottom teeth and yer upper lip to cover yer top teeth)...

The rest of these Jobs will require you to use lube... and as I always say, go with water based lube... you can find them at sex shops and usually alongside condoms in pharmacies and some convenient stores...

The Tit Job (known as Titty Fucking):
This job can't be performed by every woman; while huge tits ain't a must, they do help. Yer girlfriend rests yer cock between her tits and pushes them together; allowing her to jerk you off with them or for you to fuck them; depending on the size of yer cock, she may even be able to suck the tip of yer cock... Some women prefer to lie on their back, to do it on their knees while you stand or to do it with you sitting; try several different ways to find which one she likes best...

The Foot Job (Also known as Foot Fucking):
This Job is pretty simple; but, a hard sell for women who've never gotten into foot play of find feet disgusting. Yer girlfriend places her feet together and makes a pseudo-pussy out of the arches of her feet... If she has long legs, she can do this while sitting behind you. There are a few positions for this; but, never have her stand on you (that's an accident waiting to happen)...

The Ass Job (Not to be confused with Anal Sex or Ass Fucking):
This Job might be hard to sell yer girlfriend on. Like Titty Fucking, yer cock rests between her ass cheeks and either you or her squeeze them tight around yer cock; allowing you or her or even both to do the work rubbin yer cock between them... This Job can be with her standing and bent over, with her in the doggy position or, if she's a bit nimble, can be done with her lying on top of you... again, see what positions suit her best... Plus, on a hygienic note, make sure she's clean back there...

The Pussy Job (Not to be confused with regular intercourse):
This particular Job might be easier to sell yer girlfriend on, because she'll be getting a good bit of pleasure out of it as well. By now, you should be getting how this works; your cock is placed between two parts of her body and then held firm by you or her... in this case, yer resting yer cock between her labia majora (the skin that surrounds the pussy). I've used the terminology before; but, think hot dog in a bun... again, this can be done in several positions; find the ones she likes...

The rest are a bit avant-garde for those who never even would have thought of it; so, don't just suggest these on a whim, unless you and yer girlfriend are into trying new things...

The Armpit Job (also known as Pit Fucking):
Yep, you guessed it; you place yer cock under her arm and then she gives it a head lock (pun intended). This is best done from behind yer girlfriend and can allow her to give you a Hand Job along with it; depedning on how long yer cock is... Be sure to try this when her armpit has no harsh stubble; all the lube in the world won't help you avoid that friction nightmare...

The Arm Job (also known as Arm Fucking): *Couldn't find a Arm Job Pic... so how bout a stripper?
This is probably best done with you laying down (but, can be done several ways). Yer girlfriend takes yer cock in the crook of her elbow (where the arm bends) and brings her hand to her shoulder or chest; giving you a cock lock... if she lays on her side on top of you and places her hand behind her head, she can also give you a Hand Job... She can also flex her bicep a bit to put on a little extra pressure...

The Knee Job (Also known as a Leg Job): *Couldn't find a Knee Job Pic... so a sexy chick in a bikini should do
This one is the same as Arm Fucking, only yer cock is placed in the crook of her knee. The best position might be with her laying on her side next to you and proping her leg over yer cock; again, this will give her room and motion to work in a Hand Job as well...

Well, those are the ones that I know of... I hope that was helpful enough for ya...

Good Luck and Happy Fucking

Question 117

"Ive been to evry dating sight there is and I never find anyone is there a place garanteed to have someone for me?"

Sounds like you have the same problem the vast majority of the world has; shitty dating sites... truth be told, yer chances of finding someone online are 1,000 to 1; and that's being kind...
Good news is that it's nothing about you personally that gives you these shitty odds... it's just how dating sites work... almost every dating site relies to heavily on an individual being honest when, let's face it, none of us are ever totally honest...

You're better off trying to get out more and mingle with the outside world... go to places you like to hang out and try to get to know the people around you there; that way, if you should happen to meet someone you like, it ups the chances that they have at least one thing in common with you...
I can imagine you've heard the usual chatter:
Go to bars, libraries, churches, etc... unless these are places you actually frequent a good bit, don't even bother...
Sorry for being an assuming prick; but, I'll take a guess that yer probably a bit socially inadequate... otherwise you wouldn't have gone through so many dating sites... Trust me, I can relate...
We all can't be like those who like crowds and the hustle and bustle of the average gathering places (like bars, clubs and the like); but, we don't have to live socially dead lives...
As I said earlier, hang out more in places you like and try to keep an eye out for people who you see there alot; that's not to say to go about making a list on the people who hang where you do... go about what you normally do and if you should happen to realize that you've seen the same person a couple times try striking up a conversation with them... you'll already have something to talk about by bringing up a semi-cheesy line like: "I've seen you here a couple times, so I thought I'd say hello"...

Of course there are things to be mindful of... don't be pushy or anything... when you introduce yer'self to someone and they seem put off or uninterested, just leave it with a goodbye and move on...
Ask them question; but, don't make it like an interrogation... ask simple questions (Like: "What do like about this place?", "How often do you come?")... and, the golden rule, don't bring up sex, religion or politics when first meeting someone...
Be polite... if yer in a place that serves coffee, offer to buy a cup... don't offer to buy anything really expensive; you'll come off as trying too hard or desperate... plus, it's not smart to blow a good bit of cash on someone you don't really know just yet...
Try to be honest... I say try because we all tend to omit certain things about ourselves or just flatout lie... this is actually common in first meetings; but, while a little fudging of the truth ain't a problem (agreeing something's funny when you don't think it is, that kinda thing), bold-face lying will just get you into trouble later on if you become friends...
Lastly, expect rejection... if you can't deal with this aspect of meeting people, then yer better off with net sites...

Lastly, a word on appearance... now, I'm all for being true to yer'self and not giving a fuck what others think; but, if yer gonna try to meet people (whether through the net or on yer own), you should try to clean up a bit...
And no, I don't mean go all out or anything... just make sure you got clean comfy clothes, yer hair's not a complete nightmare of knots or horrific bed head, yer breath ain't enough to kill a skunk, yer teeth ain't the same color as cheetos and yer body ain't kickin of some horrible fumes... that's it at it's most basic...
These are the common mood killers with "normal" people... when I say normal, I mean people who ain't stuck up fucks about retarded shit like height, weight, money, etc... trust me, you don't want to meet fucks like that anyway...

Okay, this is the very last thing (and I mean it this time)... make sure yer having fun and enjoying yer'self... if you manage to strike up a conversation; but, yer not having a good time, you don't have to stick with it... just politely excuse yer'self...
The key thing is yer comfort... if you ain't comfy with any of it, than stick to what's good with you... but, I'll say this: It doesn't hurt to take a chance every now and then... Nothing ventured, nothing gained, after all...

Hope shit works out for ya... Good luck...

Great Advice

This was sent to me by someone whose sent in some very good questions since I began answering sex questions and giving advice... She tells us of an ordeal she's just gone through and then gives some very helpful advice...


Since this site is about sexuality and sexual experiences, I'd like to
take this opportunity to discuss something that is often not discussed,
sexual health. You may have read some of the things I've written here
before. I've sent in a few vibrator reviews in the past.
However, today I'd like to discuss the experience I've been having and things I've learned about having issues with reproductive health. This information
is about women's health but much of it can be applied to male
reproductive health as well.

Several months ago, I started noticing occasional pain when having sex with my partner. I blew it off as rough sex and didn't want to upset him so I didn't say anything. As time went on this pain became more and more frequent. I just shrugged off having sex at times to avoid the pain.
I eventually decided to mention it and the weird itchy feeling I was having when I went to the doctor for a stomach complaint. Sure enough they preformed a pelvic exam and what the doctor suggested I had totally floored me. My doctor
told me I had an STD and that now I had Pelvic Inflammatory Disease
(PID).
I was sitting there stunned. I couldn't see how this was possible. I had only had sex with two guys, my ex-fiance whom I had no reason to believe cheated on me in our relationship, and my current boyfriend of 2 years whom had no sexual history prior to our being together. Of course, I didn't believe he had cheated either. If he was more of an outgoing person I would have questioned him but it just didn't seem like him.
The doctors failed to tell me that there was other causes of PID and also failed to test me for anything but STDs. They sent me home with a shot in the ass and tons of pills and told me I had to bring my boyfriend in so he could be counseled on "getting tested."
Of course this was nearly the end of our relationship. My boyfriend was sitting there going "I know where I've been and if you have an STD you better tell me how you got it." Of course I couldn't because I hadn't been with anyone else either. Of course when the results came back a week later, to show I didn't have the 2 STDs they had tested for they still assumed I had the third that they did not
test for and continued to proceed as if I had an STD.
I completed their treatement, my boyfriend treated me like a cheater (To the point where I thought I was going to be kicked out of my house), and in 2 weeks the pain still didn't go away. I went back to the doctors who ordered a test, A CT scan, which only now I realize was only based on the idea that I had an STD. After the scan they told me everything was normal sent me home and told me to follow up in a week.

By this point, I had almost lost my relationship, I was still sick and realizing that these doctors had no idea what they were talking about. I realized that there was something wrong with their diagnosis, since I had none of the symptoms of the supposed STD I had, and when I had confronted them about it, they blew it off.
I realized I needed a second opinion. I made an appointment with a specialist yesterday. This is where I realized my first error, I had gone to a PCP for a women's health issue. Just because your family doctor is in a general practice it doesn't mean they know everything about specific issues. If it costs more on your health plan or out of pocket to see a specialist, it is worth your time and money believe me. I have spent over 100 bucks in copays at my PCP, and used all of my sick days from work to still get no answers.
When I was at the specialist yesterday I learned the CT scan was the wrong test to be preformed. I had needed an ultrasound. I also learned they had put me on all the wrong medication and I needed a different shot in the ass. The specialist also told me I probably have Endometriosis, which is a painful condition where the lining of the uterus (which is usually shed during a woman's period) was probably growing outside my uterus and causing the pain. There is no quick fix and surgery is the only way to definitively find out if you have it, and correct it.
I will be finding out more at my follow up next week, but let me give you a quick run down of the things I've learned in a month in the hopes it can help you in the future.

1. If something seems wrong get checked immediately!! As a survivor of
childhood sexual abuse, I tend to wait because an annual exam is like the most traumatic thing ever. Regardless, I could have saved myself a lot of time and pain had I gotten into the doctor sooner.

2. Go to a specialist! Don't assume a family doctor has the knowledge to
address issues with the reproductive system. If you do you'll be treated more like a lab rat while they take guesses when a specialist can usually nail it when you first come in.

3. If the doctors don't listen to you or stereotype you, get a second opinion QUICK! My PCP looked at me, a 20 something female, who was single and didn't use condoms during sex and said "Oh must be an STD" without asking my
sexual history or about my boyfriend. Granted, if you have a variety of sexual partners, or have unsafe sex on a regular basis, don't blow off an STD diagnosis. However if the equation doesn't add up, move on. You aren't hurting anyone but yourself by not moving on.

4. When you change sexual partners have an STD test done. If I had done that
after being with my ex-fiance, I would have had a clean bill of health to back me up. Instead I had that "what if" factor when the doctors said STD and it stalled the process of getting to the bottom of things.

5. Ask about your family history BEFORE you have health problems. Now that
I am in and out of the doctors office all of the time, I am learning about stuff my mom and sister have had that could have been relevant to tell the doctor when I was in the office, but I hear about it after I leave the office when I tell them what the doctor said. Consider asking about family health problems before you go in for an annual exam or physical. (This pertains to general health information as well as reproductive health.)

OK well those are some of my thoughts on the subject and I hope this terrible experience of mine can help someone else down the road. Thanks!


Thank you very much for this... This is great advice for people to know; especially if they're in a similar situation with getting checked up for STD's...
I have a friend who has Endometriosis; so I know it can be difficult to live with... on a good note, she just had a baby; so, there is hope if kids ever would be an option for you...
Still, I hope everything checks out fine and it's something more easily treatable...

Again, thanks for this extremely helpful advice and for sharing yer experience going through this...

*I apologize that the spacing is a bit odd... if it's too hard to see or understand for anyone, lemme know...

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